The Rules to Fighting

On November 14, Miguel and I will celebrate three years of dating, and by "celebrate" I mean we will probably Skype instead of our usual phone conversation. No worried, we have never been in the same city for any of our anniversaries. We don't really know how to even "do" anniversaries.  We have been doing the "long distance thing" for a little over a year and a half now. Its never, ever been easy, but I will say, it gives you incredible communication skills.
Now with three years of togetherness, we have argued a few times. Ok, we have argued a lot. You think getting into a fight with your loved one sucks? Try getting into the same fight a thousand miles away from each other. Really NOT fun. Last night, we laughed when we came to the realization that over the years, we had developed a "fighting code". Unspoken and unwritten rules (until now) that we both follow, so I thought I would share the rules and regulations of our arguments with you today. enjoy   :)

The Rules of Fighting:

1.  No name calling. Focus on the situation at hand. No one thinks clearly in a fight, so don't say something you will regret later, because you will.

2. Try to not cuss. Sure it happens, but you run the risk of violating rule number 1.  I understand you are heated but, tread carefully friend.

3. Under no circumstances do you hang up (or walk out of the room). If you violate rule number 3 then you forfeit the game, and lets face it, the kid that has to forfeit gets made fun of. If your going to play the game, stay in it.  Don't be THAT guy.
  -On a side note, timeouts are completely acceptable. Embrace the awkward silence mid-fight. They typically allow you to think clearer.

4. An "I love you" must always, and I mean ALWAYS be returned with an "I love you too". Stupid rule huh? You know they love you and they know you love them too. Not a stupid rule. Withholding an "I love you too" can be used as a weapon and is a clear violation to a fair fight. No weapons, fight clean.

5. Don't bring up already resolved, past issues. This is also another weapon and a clear violation. Bringing up past issues will guarantee that the fight goes into overtime. Why? Because now you have to re-fight about the past issue and still finish the current one. Know your stamina.

**6. Finally the most important rule. Know that there is no winner. There is no loser. Don't try to win. You are actually both on the same team. It would be kind of silly to try to defeat your teammate. Keep your head on straight.  Don't be dramatic (ehhemm ladies). This isn't the fight of all fights. It too will be resolved. Tomorrow will come. He will text you to remind you to bring your sweater because he checked the weather where you are, and you will love him even more.